Mixed signals – they’re everywhere.

First she breaks up with you, then she ignores you, and now… now she’s throwing off a bunch of signs? Or is she?

What will an ex girlfriend do and say when she wants to get back together with you? Do you know what body language is giving you the green light? Which signals are telling you to back off? Getting back together is complicated… to be successful, you need to know what these signs are, and exactly what they mean.

Your Ex Starts Hanging Out in Your Circle of Friends

A girl who dumped you and wants nothing more to do with you is going to pretty much avoid you at all costs. She knows that any contact or communication between you can be misconstrued, and she doesn’t want to lead you on or give you false hope.

This is why, when she starts hanging out with your friends? Your ex girlfriend is certainly sending out some interesting signals. She could be doing this to get closer to you again, or even to spy on your activities. Make sure your buddies don’t get her too much information; even if you’re not seeing other girls or going out on dates, you still want your ex to worry about this type of thing. Getting her back is all about making yourself desirable again, and as human beings, we always seem to want what we can’t have.

Your Ex Girlfriend Calls for her ‘Stuff’ Back

If you just broke up, as in yesterday or the day before, this phone call might not mean so much. It’s possible she’s looking to sever ties with you, and she’s getting everything she owns out of your place so that she doesn’t have to deal with you anymore.

But if this call comes a week or more later? It’s a good sign your ex might be making up an excuse to see you. The value of the item she’s trying to get back from you is also important. If your ex is showing up to pick up her TV or laptop computer, that’s not so much of a signal. But if she’s coming by because she forgot a phone charger or some lame DVD movie? That’s a clue she’s not coming by just for that one, tiny thing.

Your Ex Girlfriend is Flirting With You Again

Do you go to school with your ex? See her at work, or share the same circle of friends? This situation can be difficult, obviously, but it’s also a good vantage point to judge how she treats you.

In this kind of scenario you want to limit contact with your ex to a simple ‘hello’ or friendly smile. Anything else should be instigated by her. Watch for signs that your exgirfriend comes around you a lot, spends extra time near you, or even starts flirting with you again. If she’s always happy around you, looks her best, or touches your arm when she talks to you? She’s showing obvious signs of interest. These aren’t things an ex girlfriend would do when she doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore.

She’s Always at Places She Knows You’ll Show Up

You dated, and you know each other. You’re familiar with her habits, and she knows yours. So if your ex is showing up at all the same places you usually frequent? It’s because she wants to run into you.

Again, a girl who is not interested will avoid her ex boyfriend as much as possible. The fact that she keeps coming around and making herself visible is a sign that she’s at least still curious about where you are and what you’re doing. And probably, about who you’re doing it with.

Your Ex Hasn’t Unfriended You on Facebook

There are lines of communication that stay open even after breaking up, and Facebook or Instagram are two big ones. Losing someone usually means losing that person as a friend or follower, so when your girlfriend still hasn’t unfriended you? It’s because she’s still interested enough that she’s using social media to keep tabs on you.

Now don’t take this as a ‘great’ sign or anything like that. It could even mean very little. But the good thing here is that the channels are still open. You can control what your exgirlfriend sees (or doesn’t see) on your social media page, which is why you need to be very careful about what you put up there.

Don’t go for pity. Don’t vomit lame ‘breakup’ song lyrics all over your page, thinking it’ll send some deep, meaningful message to her. Do those things, and your ex is going to laugh at you. You’ll look weak and desperate and very much like a jilted, rejected ex.

What You Can Do To Make Your Ex Show These Signs

If you still don’t have contact with your ex girlfriend, there are ways you can make her start showing these signs. Select reconnection techniques can influence how she sees you, turning her feelings around and re-creating the atmosphere you both felt when you first started dating each other.